[He's riding a fine line here and he knows it. But Gregor thinks he's also getting a handle on him now, with less fumbling-- no more mistakes like flooding him with compassion too soon. Offer choices, but don't push. Assure him that you aren't weak. Assure him that he isn't weak. Retain integrity.
That's what's in Gregor's guidebook to dealing with Miles's brother so far.
You could detach from them completely. I was entirely serious with my weasel-wording about your name when I swore you in. You could pick anything you wanted and deny the relationship. I'd prefer you did that quickly, if so, because it will be torturous to them to have you waffling and then land on that decision, but that's just me. And I'd suggest in that case you got used to them thinking of you as family because I strongly suspect that Miles will not budge on you as his brother, nor Lady Vorkosigan on you as her son.
But I do think they could learn to leave you alone about it and respect your choice if so. You would be just another Barrayaran subject in that case-- not Vor-- sworn to me. I would be the only obligation you had... the only point of attachment.]
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That's what's in Gregor's guidebook to dealing with Miles's brother so far.
You could detach from them completely. I was entirely serious with my weasel-wording about your name when I swore you in. You could pick anything you wanted and deny the relationship. I'd prefer you did that quickly, if so, because it will be torturous to them to have you waffling and then land on that decision, but that's just me. And I'd suggest in that case you got used to them thinking of you as family because I strongly suspect that Miles will not budge on you as his brother, nor Lady Vorkosigan on you as her son.
But I do think they could learn to leave you alone about it and respect your choice if so. You would be just another Barrayaran subject in that case-- not Vor-- sworn to me. I would be the only obligation you had... the only point of attachment.]